New Year Fresh Start

Happy New Year! Well, what a year 2019 was for our little trio. It was full of family fun, adventures and we created so many wonderful memories together that we will forever cherish. We celebrated another year as husband and wife, my little girl turned five and I proudly stood by my sister as she married her best friend. 

But with all those great family memories there have been a were a few sad moments that we really want to leave in 2019 and more forward. A new decade is upon us and it's time to embrace the new year and a fresh start. While we do our best to practice balance and live life to the fullest each day, seeing the start of a new decade calls for a great deal of reflection and setting some goals for the next year.

For most of us, resolutions for the new year are pretty much the same. Eat healthier, lose weight, start a fitness regime or get a new job. Even though setting personal goals is a great way to strive to learn and grow, I do wonder if setting these types of resolutions is a set up for failure. Perhaps it's time to change the way we look at the start of a new year. This year will focus less on my usual personal goals and concentrate on two pretty important things; reflection and intention.

By reflecting on the past year is the perfect place to start. So much happened in 2019 and some things for us have been really difficult for us, but reflecting on those times has made us realise all the wonderful things that did happen, to be grateful and appreciate all the the little things. Reflection allows us to look back and see where we have come from. By doing this can help us recognise all the things we were so worried about before and are perhaps not so significant now.

As you know the past two years we have seen a lot of heartache with conceiving another baby. We knew that trying for a second baby would be just as tough as the first time around, but that logic didn't do anything to lessen the blow with each pregnancy test. But despite our best efforts trying to conceive a second baby there is no sign of a baby. After more than a year of heartbreak we finally had a positive pregnancy test. Our joy and happiness wasn't meant to be which made the heartbreak for us to be that much harder. So it was incredibly difficult for us, but it has made us really appreciate what we already have. We know how lucky we are to have our beautiful baby girl in our life and nothing will be as great as her. 

Often, when we are in the midst of a struggle, such as infertility, our perspective becomes skewed. It seems over the last year that everyone was getting pregnant apart from us. This is simply not the case, because we were both so fixed on achieving a pregnancy, that was where our focus was going. The start of a new decade is always exciting and so with this fresh start we shall be focusing on perspective and it's going to take a lot of courage, practice and a whole lot of patience to change the way we look at our journey.

By making simple changes can help set ourselves up for more happiness and fulfilment in life. It's all about changing your mindset, altering your focus and prioritising movement forward. We can never underestimate the potential of intentions. If we are what we think and believe, than our attitude and the purpose behind what we do and how we live matters more than anything. It can be one thing to say that you want to do such as starting a health kick or fitness regime, but without honest intention behind it all can become easily unfulfilled. Thinking about our true intentions going forward in the new decade is something that will be a focus to create a life we want, and not to be completely consumed by the one thing alone. We are already lucky, we need to be grateful for what we have and not sad about something that we have no control over. So 2020 let's do this.