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Do You Believe In The Dummy Fairy? | Do one DODO!

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Before having my daughter I thought of myself as an expert on children and would always be the first to offer my know it all expertise. I would bang on about what was good for a child and what was bad for them, a dummy being something that new parents shouldn't rely on. If I could go back, I would bitch slap that know it all me in the face! Becoming a parent is full of surprises. It doesn't matter how many books, parenting forums or articles you read, nothing can completely prepare you for parenthood. Being a parent is hard, harder than I had ever imagined. In the midst of bottles, nappies, cries and sheer exhaustion, I completely caved in and gave my daughter a dummy - she was only two days old.
 
And so the love for the dummy, or DODO as we knew it, began!
 
 
Both my husband and I agreed that around her first birthday we would try and ditch the dummy, but it was proving more difficult than we anticipated. We didn't consider that we would be facing, teething problems, separation anxiety and another bloody sleep regression. Our daughter loved her dummy, like really loved her dummy and became very reliant on her precious dummy and to some extent so did we! Around eighteen months old she dropped her naps and it was then that we began to wean her off the dummy and only allow her to have it for bedtime, which she took to quite well.
 
 
But we figured that she's two and half now and knew it was time to get rid of the dummy once and for all, we were also getting a bit worried about her teeth. As we knew that our daughter really loved he dummy we were keen on encouraging her to give it up all on her own with the use of her imagination, instead of going cold turkey that was recommended. By using a little bit of imagination with the dummy fairy we managed to get our daughter to give her dummies away, all by herself and to actually be happy about it.
 
 
We began to talk about the dummy fairy for a few weeks so that she could get use to the idea. December came and we told our daughter that the dummy fairy wanted to come and collect all of her dummies on Christmas Eve so that new babies could have a dummy. Our daughter loved talking about the dummy fairy to everyone, even people at the check outs in the supermarkets, she would tell them all about the dummy fairy and how she needed some dummies for the other babies. When we decided that once we had our Christmas up we would try and encourage our daughter to place one of her many dummies on a branch all ready for the dummy fairy to come and collect. She did this every week, happily! Then it came to the last dummy to go on the tree and she did it without thinking too much of it, we were so proud of her and its amazing what a little imagination can do to encourage a child to give up something that they love more than anything.
 
My advice to other parents who want to ditch the dummy is try to be patient and wait until they are ready. As you can see, we tried a number of times to help our daughter ditch her dummy and by introducing the dummy fairy, with the use of a little imagination seem to work best for us. By encouraging rather than making her go cold turkey was the best, she could get use to the idea and actually want to give them up all by herself. If your child is not completely ready and you have to go back to square one then that's OK. All children are different. Then main idea with the use of imagination is to try and encourage your child to want to give their dummy up rather than being told they have to. No one likes to give up things they love.
 
It took us 6 days to completely forget about the dummy, and that's all thanks to the dummy fairy.
 
Do you believe in the dummy fairy? What worked best for you?
 
33 comments on "Do You Believe In The Dummy Fairy? | Do one DODO!"
  1. Yes, I agree! You can rush and try to get rid of the dummy but that doesn't help anyone. Much better to take your time and to prepare them like you did. We talked about it for months too and then round Christmas we got Oldest to post them to Father Christmas so that he could give them to the new babies. Worked a treat! #CoolMumClub

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    1. By using a little imagination we made the transition work for all of us. I didn't want to go cold turkey as that's just awful and I know that it wouldn't have worked with my wilful daughter. The dummy fairy was a much softer approach.

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  2. My 15 months old still uses his dummy, we tried to wean him off by his first birthday (and failed, haha). We were told to go cold turkey but we're not ready to deal with a melt down plus he's currently teething and his dummy seems to sooth him. we will try the dummy fairy method when he's older and can understand us. Reading this post gives me hope that one day we can ditch the dummy. #coolmumclub

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    1. Yes please do, you'll have to let me know if it's a success. I have convinced my sister to use the dummy fairy around Easter for her daughter. The idea is that the dummy fairy will come and take my nieces dummies and leave her a little gift for doing so, along with some eggs that the Easter Bunny leaves.

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  3. This is such a good idea. I'll have to keep it in mind for when Baby is a bit older. #coolmumclub

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    1. I think that using a little imagination can encourage a little one more, it beats just taking something that the love off of them.

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  4. My son LOVES is dodo. He crawls around pointing saying'dodo dodo dodo' like he's enslaved to the dodo king, haha. He's got a really specific tone for 'dodo' too. I think as long as he needs it, it will be there, then the dodo fairy might come! #CoolMumClub

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    1. The dodo king, I love it. But it's so strange how we all can get attached to something so quickly. For us, letting her make the decision (with a little encouragement) was so much better.

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  5. Great approach! Sounds like it went as smoothly as you could have hoped. I completely agree that it wasn't worth rushing or forcing her. My daughter gave up her dummy at 19 months which was later than I planned but she needed it for longer for similar reasons to yours. She started chewing it though and I was worried she'd swallow it so I had to make her go cold turkey. My alternative plan had been to do something similar to you. I think it's a great idea! #CoolMumClub

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    1. By letting my daughter make the decision with a little encouragement, worked so well. She was in control and in the end actually wanted to give her dummy away. No one likes to go cold turkey. We all want to get use to not having something before it's taken away!

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  6. When the kids were two we put the dummies in the mailbox and sent them to the fairy...

    We went through a week of hell and then it was over just like that!

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  7. My 14 year old teenager still spits hers out occasionally !! (The invisible one of course). I had a dummy until I was 4 - what the hell were my parents thinking ??? I still suck my thumb too, my husband tells me off but its so comforting lol. Maybe thats why my children have all given them up around the ages of 18 months, although my youngest is 19 months and he still has it to get him off to sleep at bedtime. I hope the fairy comes soon.. #coolmumclub

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  8. We talked to the Tubblet about her dummy - which she adored - and said it would go when she was three and a big girl going to nursery etc. Because we talked about for ages before hand, she handed them over without a peep.

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  9. Hmmm...we SWORE we were going to go for it after Christmas, but then we got the 'sleeping through the night thing' nailed. It had taken 2 years so now we are too scared to change things again! Mouse is nearly 2.5 though and I'm adamant it's going before she is three. Maybe this technique might just work...well done you!
    Thanks for linking to #coolmumclub xx

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  10. Brilliant! My sister had a big send-off event at the park that she drummed up where all the pacifiers were tied to a bunch of balloons and released so that babies could have their turn, since big girls don't need them anymore. She referred back to that visual image any time my niece asked for her pacifier. She grieved briefly and had a little trouble sleeping for a bit but ultimately was just fine. :-)
    #bestandworst

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  11. I've read so many stories of parents who've tried to take the dummy away before the child isn't ready and it never ends well. This is such a great idea! A much kinder way to remove those troublesome dummies once and for all xx

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  12. Absolutely nothing prepares us for parenting! Even second time around I was unprepared for just how different the second baby would be! #KCACOLS

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  13. Haha we do make up some crazy things as mothers don't we! I got my little boy to give his to father Christmas when he was 2.5 I was dreading Christmas night and really thought I would be giving in and giving him it back. He never once mentioned it again!! Our little girl isn't very keen on hers unless she is teething or feeling unwell, Her nightly bottles on the other hand are a NIGHTMARE! So were trying to get a plan in place to stop this. Parenting ey......so much fun! :)

    #sundaybest

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  14. What a lovely idea and it seemed to work really well for you. Hanging them on the tree is so sweet x #SundayBest

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  15. Will remember this for my little one, hoping to get him of the dummy soon(ish) x
    #KCACOLS

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  16. I was exactly the same as you - I swore Grace would never have a dummy...and then she did! The dummy fairy sort of worked for us but, in the end, Grace just landed up putting them in the bin! #KCACOLS

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  17. I've never used dummies so have no experience but from what I've heard from other mums it sounds like you've nipped it in the bud quite easily! #KCACOLS

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  18. Oh lord, seeing that first picture of your daughter just made my ovaries do a double take!! Haha, oh she is just so precious! I think I need another baby LOL! I tried giving both of mine a dummy as a last resort to stop the endless crying but neither really took to it which I was actually really glad of! There's so many obsticles in parenting that I don't think I'd cope if I had added the dummy one into it too! I do love the idea of the dummy fairy tho :) #KCACOLS

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  19. Thanks for this. My son is just 2 and loves his dummy. I don't think he would understand about the dummy fairy yet and I just don't think we're ready. I know we will move on when the time is right. #kcacols

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  20. None of my 4 boys have had a soother. But I tried desperately with the last 3 to get them to take one. It would have been nice I. The car where our last 3 boys have screamed for the first 2 years of life!!!! Thanks for sharing :)
    #kcacols

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  21. Oh this is so smart! Kids love fun and imagination, and tapping into that to get them to do something you want them to (but something that would be hard for them) is absolutely genius! My son would never take the pacifier, and we tried many different times, but he was never interested! Thanks for sharing <3 #KCACOLS

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  22. Seems to have worked out - hope it continues. My neighbours kids are five and two and she's struggling to get them to give up. Snappy is six months and has never had one. #kcacols

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  23. My little one is 2 years 4 months and I honestly don't care about his dummy. I feel like it's a bit disgusting sucking it but I try and limit it to sleep times. Altho if he feels sad or out of his comfort zone and it helps him then I don't see the problem. That said I really don't want a 4 years old with a dummy.

    I'm loving this dummy fairy idea. I also heard that the Bear Factory does something where you can take your dummies and you put them inside the bears tummy. So the bear becomes a substitute for the dummy. I've tried attaching him to bears for sleep time tho and that's not helped. He's also still attached to holding my hand when he sleeps so I'm more desperate to wean him off of that lol. We are running out of space for us to share a bed and I've yet to suss a way to remove my hand lol.

    Fab post. Very helpful
    #KCACOLS

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  24. Oh that first picture is the cutest thing ever!! <3 Ah this sounds like a great approach. I know a lot of people who the dummy fairy idea worked really well for.
    My eldest is 3 and only gave up his dummy recently, he only had it at night but I just didn't want to make it a "thing" and wanted it to be something he decided to do himself...and he did. One night he just didn't ask for it...that was about 4 months ago and he hasn't asked for it since.
    No tears, no bribes...just no more dody! I'll be trying the same approach with my other kids and hoping they give it up when theyre ready too. Thanks for joining us at #sundaybest, hope to see you again tomorrow x

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  25. My boys never took to dummies (I tried!) But one of my friends used the dummy fairy with her daughter and it worked brilliantly. If this baby takes to dummies I will definitely be trying it when it comes to the time to wean her off it. Thank you for linking up to #SundayBest x

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  26. I love this idea! I have a 1y/o boy, and he's not read to ditch the dummy yet, but he only has it for sleep time (or if he's in a really foul mood lol.) I've been thinking of ways we could ditch it when the time comes, so this has helped me greatly! thankyou! #KCACOLS
    Becky x

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  27. I like the idea of a dummy fairy. My daughter never took to a dummy, but my son did. We tried doing it cold turkey, and it worked for a while, until he found a forgotten one in a drawer and we had to start again!
    #kcacols

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